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I think my family is crazy

Over the years I had way too many blog posts about crazy mother-in-law and the rest of her family but something happened this week. After a long long call with her Aunty, my wife R. figured out something amazing as she turned in the car towards me and said “I’m going insane, my mom’s family is crazy, just so crazy!”. Only thing I could answer was “I figured that out years ago Dear”.

My wife R. can be sometimes a bit slow when things are not about our business but I was surprised it took her 32 years to figure out that her mom’s family is crazy. The whole crazy family dawned on me some when around 2013, after being together with my wife for three years. Back then I also started this blog as a mean for self-therapy to deal with all the insanity I had encountered in China and when MIL came to visit. In 2016 I had a rough summary about MIL’s side of the family, describing the different character rather well. However back then I judged Uncle’s character totally wrong as his greed for money showed this summer as he didn’t want to pitch in money for Granny’s medications for her cancer (wasn’t even his money, he didn’t want to give the retirement money of Granny which he always keeps for himself).

Crazy Uncle, unknown extended family, Granny, crazy Aunty

So what happened that  R. figured out about her crazy family? I think the turning point was that call with Aunty as she told her that she cannot pay for the medication any longer as she is basically bankrupt. How is that possible out of nowhere, well she has also a nasty character. She started few years ago a small company for hair products with her best friend and it was doing really well. Things stopped going well when she had a fight with her friend forcing her to leave the company. Aunty ain’t good with money so it was just downhill from that point onward. In fact she is never good with money, she even kind of scammed her other former friends and neighbors into a snowball system leaving all of them without any of their hard saved cash. Due to her lack of money she now forces her sister (MIL) to pay all of the medication pretty much alone, hooray for this great family.

Someone tries to take a picture of my grandson? I need to be in it!

Besides that call from Aunty my wife also had tons of video chats with her dad in the past weeks. He always calls her when he cannot take MIL’s behavior anymore and then they kind of gossip about that crazy mom for an hour or so each time to give their frustration some outlet. There is really some reason why MIL is never invited to any family gathering in China, everyone kind of hates her. Aunty is also on a good track towards getting redlined from the family. When Aunty’s daughter calls from Japan she also only can complain about her mother and was going crazy when she stayed in Japan in the beginning of the year for several months due to having her first child (insanities including pressing the fire alarm button multiple times in the apartment and destroying some of the kitchen).

So yeah, now my wife figured out that there is something not quite right with her mom’s family, let’s see when she starts a blog for self-therapy!

Do you know people who really need a long time until they figure out that there is something odd about somebody else?

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In search for some snow

For some time Nathan has been asking us already when we will have snow so he can go play outside and build snowmen and snow fortresses. The thing is we will most likely not have any snow this year either. For the past decade or so we barely had any snow which stayed for more than just few hours or a day. Now I know from my childhood that we had enough snow here (and pictures to proof it) to go even skiing or sledging at the nearby hill. Few times even the lake here had solid enough ice to go skating. However times are changing and we have hotter and hotter summers and milder winters.

December 24th here few years back, drowning in snow

So what to do when the kids want snow? Go to the mountain areas in middle and southern Germany or do something very different such as visiting Finland during the winter time? My wife is not really fond at all about snow and she does not want to do any activities outdoor so a little skiing holiday within Germany would be kind of meaningless. However visiting Finland would most likely mean tons of snow, stay at our own cabin and visit some friends afterwards before travelling back to Germany. So yes, my wife would prefer Finland (even though she is not fond of having the long ship cruise during winter time) and the kids could finally enjoy some snow.

The situation in Finland is a bit different

Now our plans are not set in stone at all but we have more or less an idea what to do and when to go. Our preferred time would be around the Chinese New Year as we have barely any work as all customers are busy visiting their relatives and that time is also more or less the snow peak time up there in Finland. For extra support we would force my parents to join us, especially as I have no real clue how to manage the cabin alone with all the heating and switching on the water supply.

More snow

I know that in Finland there are also bad winters with barely any snow in that region however from all the years (soon 30 years) I have lived or visited Finland it only happened a couple of times with a no snow/ barely any snow. Chances are pretty high for some snowy madness and at least Nathan could learn some cross country skiing, ice skating and perhaps even downhill skiing. Nathalie on the other hand will be still a tad bit too young for such activities but there is still so much to play around with the proper amount of snow. I remember in my childhood building gigantic snowmen, fortresses and snow caves. Right now I really hope this will work out and we should really order the tickets for the ship soon(ish) before the prices become ridiculous. The ship cruise is however a matter of mostly bad memories as during the winter we always had storms resulting in many sea sick people on board and my wife is handling it poorly as well.

What are your plans for the wintery season?

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Study time for the children

Here in my hometown we got to know over the years other Chinese-German couples with kids. This town is not big but it is interesting to see how many Chinese leave here by now (compared to my childhood when the only Chinese here were running restaurants). We never really thought much about it until we met last month for a hot pot round at a friend’s place and we had suddenly eight mixed children running around and making some noise. Back then we (okay mostly the mothers) were thinking how great it would be for the kids to come together more often and play and talk in Mandarin.

Some of the kids during the first lesson

Just a week after our eating round we decided to meet several times a month for a little study round for the kids. Actually it can’t be really considered real studying as it is more about having more access to Mandarin for the children such as reading books, learning some about the numbers and characters. As we are no small round it was difficult at first to figure out where to have these meetings but one of the couples are also managing a club home (in fact the very same club I used to be a member in during my swimming days) and there is more than enough space for all of us. Best of all is that the club home is located very close to us so it is just 10 min away by walking.

And another picture in that awful phone camera quality

The children always “study” a bit for half hour, play together for half hour and then study a bit more. Children that young are not really fond of just sitting still for such long time so the playing time helps them to let out some energy. All of the kids are really looking forward to each Sunday as they can meet their friends and play. Our Nathan is the oldest with his five years and the youngest one is just half year old though she is not yet participating and usually clings on her father while we chat. We were always wondering how to get our children more access to Chinese and never thought how many in the very same situation as us are already living here. One couple just moved here from China this summer and they are certainly happy to meet up with other parents with the same background here in this little town.

Did you visit similar “meetings” in your childhood or sent/ are planning to do so with your children?

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