The Battle Between MIL and Cars

After knowing my crazy Chinese mother-in-law for 4 years I really do believe that she must hate cars. There were just too many occasions during those years that it can not be coincidence anymore. Most of these things were just small details but they add up over time and last but not least I discovered some ‘Marks’  she had left behind in our car.

FIL the King of Cars

In China only my father-in-law is driving the cars. As I have written before he is a very careful person so he always wears a seatbelt even in taxis…well in case the taxi actually got seatbelts as they tend to be missing more often than not. MIL on the other hand is the exact opposite. There is nothing careful about her actions and seatbelts do not have any purpose in her world. So what makes me think that she hates cars? It all started during one of our trips to China when I asked my wife why MIL is never driving. I guessed till then that she just might not have a driving license but no, the demon somehow managed to get her hands on a license years back. My wife told me that the cars crazy MIL drove tend to end up with tons of scratches and dents. But the main cause to end her racing career was that she actually crashed a car into the city wall of Xi’an. Yes you read right THE HUGE CITY WALL with two lanes each way leading trough it wide enough that even two trucks can drive next to each other without problems!

How to crash against these walls? She does not even drink!

Okay so she had some little accidents during her driving time which does not yet give any reason nor connection yet to actually answer why she might hate cars. Now we fast forward from her crash some years ago into more modern times during her first visit to Finland. Back then it already started with minor things such as not buckling up. After being told numerous time she started to do the fake buckle up or blaming the seatbelt for not working properly. I guess she let out some rage during those times on the seatbelt as this poor little thing ended up broken and had to be fixed. Also I noticed huge hand and face smudges on the window where she was sitting which resulted that I had to clean the windows every few weeks. But she didn’t end there as also the nice rear bench ended up covered in drinks, food and other trash. Sometimes I really wondered how on earth she got all the dirt into the car, perhaps she was sneaking out of the house at night with a trash bag and poured it all into the car…who knows…

My baby before MIL’s vicious attacks

The car somehow has survived already her third visit but just barely. Besides the tons of trash in the car and other unspeakable things I had to clean out after she left I found something remarkable on the rear car door she always used. The car is not the youngest anymore so some small scratches might show at the doors for example due to opening them not careful enough and hit by mistake another car. Thing is though that there was only one mark prior to her last visit. This spot was shown to me at a car paint shop which I had to visit to get some other part fixed. It wasn’t anything big so my jar just dropped on the floor when doing the standard “Get MIL’s dirt out of the car” session. The scratch on the car had multiplied about a dozen times and even showed some dents. Now when You by accident hit another car with the door you remember it at least for a while and be careful from that point onwards but not her. The damage appeared more like that when she hit the other car she tried with all her might to push that other car away with my poor baby’s door! Not just once but repeatable smashing it against cars and walls. Somehow also the area around the door handle ended up in an ocean of tiny scratches for unknown reasons.

You think this is messed up during our move to Germany? Imagine this filled with trash…

Either she really does hate cars or she tried to exact revenge for her daughter constantly telling her to buckle up. I think I should just buy for the next three-month visit by MIL some broken down car for hundred Euros . Scratches, dents and the like would not matter anyways on such car and my baby would be safe from her madness. I believe the title “Destroyer of Cars” is rather suitable for her.

Have you ever encountered such a destructive force when it comes to cars?

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40 thoughts on “The Battle Between MIL and Cars”

    1. I really wonder why it is still such a big problem for many Chinese to buckle up. Especially when they go as far as doing the fake buckle up by holding it under their arm…its even harder that just to plug it in!

      1. Have to say us southeners Italians tend to do the same…especially the old generations … I have to keep telling my mum off for not doing it!

      2. Interesting to know how much “common” some of the old/ wrong believes are about pets. Thankfully my parents know better though they are also already an older generation (both over 70) but in their younger days they did the same wrong things when it comes to feeding with their dogs

  1. … O_ô
    How many other cars did she destroy in the process? I’d imagine there are quite some car owners that came back to a dent…

    I don’t understand the no seatbelt either. Though for me it did work out. I just always insist that I can buckle my seatbelt und now everyone in my Chinese family does (at least when I’m around ^^)

  2. Your MIL does have a problem. She has to learn…. She has to meet a paraplegic who might have injured permanently from a car accident, etc. Seriously. I worked for 3 years in a rehabilitation hospital in Toronto that specialized in care of adult paraplegics and quadriplegics.

    I don’t know what the laws in Germany are, but in Canada, you would be fined for no seatbelt.

    Yes, I did notice relatives from China wouldn’t belt up, until my father lectured them. (Whether or not they listened… hopefully their adult Canadian-born children now remind them..)

    1. Oh she met two before as friends of hers had accidents and in Chinese media they also lecture about it. In Germany the fine is 30 euros and in Finland it depends on the income (one guy speeding once paid 250.000euros fine…)
      I was once told that many Chinese don’t use the seatbelt because it is their “freedom” and they don’t want to be told what to do in these kind of thing. No idea if it’s true but well it is really stupid to play with once life like that

  3. It sounds like MIL has some demonic physical strength ability within her…If she was really having a bad day or the car irritated her for whatever reason, she could crush it with her own hands. A matter of time…

    In Australia, you have to wear a seatbelt in the front and back seat or else you will get fined if the polices pulls you over and you aren’t wearing it. Sometimes it’s hard for me because I find that the tighter the seatbelt, the more dizzy I get in the car.

    1. In Europe it is also law to wear a seatbelt for many decades and you will be fined when driving without. As a child I didn’t like th seatbelt as it used to cut into my neck when not having a child seat in some cars but by now I don’t even feel the belt any longer.
      In cars I start to feel a bit dizzy when reading too much :p

      1. Haha, I thought I was the only one who didn’t like the seatbelt cutting into my neck. That made me feel suffocated. Also, I get dizzy if I read in car, even and airplane. No good 😀

      2. Yes, even in the plane. I guess my body is hyper sensitive to motion or something. Or a lack of oxygen goes to my brain in the plane, I don’t know 😀

      3. Correct. They are boring. Reading the magazines or watching the entertainment system makes me sick. Also scary because I don’t like flying too 😀

      4. Terrible. Each flight to China I watch the movies non-stop or read in between the airline magazine. Through this the flight passes by I no time however this flight we will have Nathan with us who will require tons of attention. This will be probably the longest flight ever for us

  4. Haha, you guys are usually very sensitive about your cars, but it seems in this case you are entitled… I also think your MIL hates cars! Or… *gasp*… she hates you and shows it by destroying your car!!

  5. She can understand the concept of getting a few Euros discount when shopping, but not the concept of damaging a car that cost tens of thousands of Euros. I would totally get a cheap and lousy car just for the crazy MIL the next time she comes.

  6. Crazy MIL indeed! We also have to remind our in-laws to buckle up when they sit in our car, especially my father-in-law. Another even worse is that lots of people here don’t use baby car seats for their babies or toddlers, they just hold them in their laps. We lent our car and the baby seat for my husband’s sister while we were in Finland, but not sure if they actually used to baby seat when driving…

    1. Yes, my MIL doesnt see any benefit of a safety seat and thinks that her lap is much more safer for Nathan! I really wonder how we will get around in China next time we are there with Nathan

  7. Wearing seat belts is required by law here in Taiwan. I’m not saying everyone does it. However, it was pretty strictly enforced back in 2011 when the law was first made. Come to think of it, our family car, a 2-year-old Subaru, makes a loud “ding, ding, ding” sound that won’t quit till your seat belt is buckled. All cars should have this, then we wouldn’t have to waste our breath trying to convince the unconvinced that buckling up is for their own good 🙂

    1. In mainland China it is also required by law but still no one does it, not even the police who should enforce it. Basically all cars younger than 15 or even 20 years (depending on the brand) got this annoying alarm sound. However there are tons of tools eveywhere available in China which you stick in instead of the belt and voila, no more alarm sound…

      1. Another phenomenon here is that people never look back when they’re pulling out of a parking spot. Every single vehicle is equipped with this “beep-beep-beep!” alarm that I guess is supposed to warn nearby pedestrians that someone is backing out.

      2. Oh, didn’t know about the beeping sound on normal vehicles so far, I only know it from trucks and buses.
        Whenever I see a car backing out in China I try to be as far away as possible :p

  8. I don’t know how you deal with her. I couldn’t. Damaging and trashing someone’s car, let alone your son-in-law’s, is NOT a nice thing to do. Maybe you should have a camera trained on her at all times. 😛 Sorry.

  9. From what I have been told, the only people who are required to wear seat belts in China are those in the front seat. When we had some of my wife’s friends visited us in Texas, I told them to buckle up in the back seat. At first they resisted, saying that it wasn’t required in China, to which I replied, “You’re not in China any more, in America, especially Texas, EVERYBODY wears a seat belt and if the police stop us, YOU’RE going to pay the $200 + fine for not wearing a seat belt.”

    1. We told her this also pretty often which only brought success for a couple of days till it went to the fake buckle up style. It is really so strange that so many people avoid the seat belts in China even though in TV they show pretty often the terrible outcome of not wearing one

  10. No, I’ve never encountered anyone that destructive with a car.

    Speaking of seat belts reminds me how different things were when my children were small. I don’t think we had seat belts in the back seat, and we didn’t have car seats for the kids. They could wander all over the car. It’s hard to imagine now.

    1. In Germany it is by law that children under the age of 12 or under 150cm are required to use a safety seat. However most people already used them long before that.
      Our neighbour in Finland had some American Classic cars and there were the seatbelts also “missing” in the back but these cars all were from 1965 and older.
      Once I was transporting a 15kg box on the backseat and I needed to do a full break do to a dog running on the street. The box flew right into the front window and this and smashed many items in it. This showed me first hand how important those belts are and how dangerous it is already at low speed (was driving 60km/h…)

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