Guest Post: My Finnish Mother-in-law

Hello everyone, I’m Ruowei the wife of Timo and the guest blogger for today. I will tell you about my weird mother-in-law. No my MIL is not some crazy Asian woman but an elderly European woman who acts pretty strange sometimes.

 

So this is how an European MIL is through the eyes of a Chinese girl. My MIL is an old and weird lady, I guess you can use weird for every MIL despite the nationality. She is a very kind person, not getting in middle of our marriage life which is very good compare to many Chinese MILs, however, my MIL sometimes can be really–how to say, funny in a way? Here are just some examples which make me laugh every time I see it.

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MIL at our son’s baptizing

These are some of the basics about my mother-in-law that you should know. She is a quite stubborn lady, she doesn’t want to learn anything new, especially when it comes to electronics. The worst nightmare for her is that the old remote control is broken and she needs to switch to a new one. It is not simply about changing to something but also to learn all the different buttons ones again even though she only uses three buttons on every remote control : On/Off, Volume +/- and Channel +/-. Really, these are all the buttons she needs but whenever she has to use a different remote control it is like the end of the world for her. Then there is the matter that she does not want to learn anything at all about modern technology. Let’s take a mobile phone as an example. All she can do for the past 20 years is to type in the numbers and dial them and also she knows how to answer a call. Phonebook, text messages, calender etc. are as alien to her and strange as flying pigs are or Mämmi to me! To this day she writes down what she wants to say in a text message on a piece of paper and her husband has to type it in.

Every time Timo’s father is buying something big, like a tv, he always tells her a much lower price so she wouldn’t start complaining about that the old TV was still working perfectly even though the picture was only half visible…Whatever somebody buys, she always complains how expensive it is and this resulted that everyone tells her a much lower price these days whenever she wants to know about it. Timo got a new racing bicycle last summer  from his dad. Both were struggling on how to tell my MIL about it so what they did is not telling the her about the bicycle until she saw it in our apartment this spring. As she started to complain about it, Timo and his father told her “But you know, we discussed this already last year”. This is enough to confuse her and after a while she even believes it….my poor MIL always gets tricked by the evil husband and son.

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MIL hiding behind my mother

Then there is the matter about food. She just does not want to try out any new food (just as new technology). So just imagine how hard it was to figure out what to eat when my in-laws visited for their first time China for over a week! It was not easy this I can tell you. Even MIL’s sister said to us how impossible it is to find anything nice to eat for MIL. You might think it is because of the strange spices in Chinese food but no, she also doesn’t like/ wants to try any German or Finnish food she hasn’t had before. This results in very standardized dishes we get served whenever she makes food. Boooring!

As a last story I have still my favorite. It is both funny and sad so I never really know how to think about it. The one sentence MIL is using always and with always I mean nearly everyday we are over at her place and are about to leave “This might be the last time we can enjoy this together you never know when I’m dying!” According to Timo she has been saying this as long as he can remember, so at least 25 years now. Great way to cheer up your son MIL!

I hope this gave you a small idea about my mother-in-law. I can sum her up as kind person who is against anything new may it be technology or food. I tried to find better pictures of her but she always runs away when I appear with my phone pointing her direction.

I’ve been nominated for the Liebster Award!

I have been nominated for the Liebster Award thanks to A China Cat. This honor for bloggers with less than 200 followers promotes the discovery of newer members of the blogosphere.

In her blog http://achinacat.wordpress.com you can find stories about her life as a foreigner in China with both good and bad experiences.

Here are the “rules” (copied from A China Cat’s post):

Thank the person who nominated you for a Liebster Award and link their blog to your post.
Answer the 11 questions they’ve asked you.
Nominate 11 bloggers who have 200 followers or fewer for the award.
Ask 11 questions to your nominees.
Let your nominees know you nominated them once you’ve posted about your Liebster Award.
Add the Liebster Award badge to your blog!

 

Here are my answers to A China Cat’s questions:

 

The last thing that made you laugh?

My son, by doing one of his stupid faces this morning


City you would most like to visit?

At the moment probably Tokyo just because it is so interesting for me and my wife. already for several years. We wanted to visit this summer but this failed due to some complications with the visa process.

What’s your perfect breakfast?

The perfect breakfast for is no breakfast at all. Sure it is nice to eat in the morning, especially in Hotels but I just don’t like anymore eating in the mornings ever since I quited my sports. This is probably due to the fact that I might simply overeat and won’t be able to eat lunch later 🙂

Best gig you’ve ever been to?

Flogging Molly in Hamburg 2004

Favorite book?

This is a touch one, but right now I go for “The Eye of the World” by Robert Jordan

Who would you most like to have dinner with?

I actually don’t know but I know for certain that I do not want to have dinner with my mother-in-law

If you could be an animal for a day, which animal would you be?

A sloth, just hanging around the whole day

Tea or coffee?

Coffee

What’s your favorite part of your body?

My elbows, great support when sitting at the computer

One non-electronic item you could not live without?

My memory foam pillow, one night without it and the neck pain kills me

Something you have achieved in the past year?

I got my BBA and we had our Wedding ceremonies in China and Finland

 

 

For my nominees, here are my eleven questions:

1. What annoys you the most?
2. Tablet, laptop or desktop computer?
3. What’s your favorite sport?
4. How long can you sleep, whats your record in hours?
5. Favorite fruit?
6. Best place to relax?
7. Aquarium or Terrarium?
8. Ever been to the Arctic Circle?
9. Best TV series 2014? (need to find a new one to watch…)
10. Car or bicycle?
11. Favorite food?

And my nominees are:

http://rayhecht.com/

http://xiananigans.wordpress.com/

http://amwfcouple.wordpress.com/

http://raisingdragonboy.com/

http://chinasurvivalguide.wordpress.com/blog/

http://odatobiassen.wordpress.com/

http://dreamingoftaipei.wordpress.com/

http://chinaelevatorstories.com/

http://laksaandlefse.wordpress.com/

http://themandarinduck.wordpress.com/

http://thedailybubbletea.com/

 

Enjoy!

I hope I got everyone right this time and contacted everyone, its a bit crazy here right now at home with the whole moving process 🙂

Moving Away

Moving to a new home is always both hard work and fun. Hard work as you have to get all your belongings sorted, pack everything up, rethink if this particular item you bought few years ago has a spot in your new home or should better end up in the trash bin (probably it should already years before) and sell furniture you don’t need anymore. Fun because it is basically a fresh start for you, you are able to set up in the new home everything how you like it (as it was nearly impossible in your old home because of the mass of furniture and other stuff). Now think how much work it is just to move to another building, street, city or province and then think about how damn hard it is to move with all your stuff to another country.

WP_20140824_001Yes, it is nearly time for us to move finally to Germany. Wednesday my parents will arrive with their car and a trailer. However we won’t go directly to Germany but first to the cottage again as my parents decided to take our sofa and washing machine. This trip to the cottage is actually a nice idea as it will give us the opportunity to relax for a few days before starting the next part of our journey. Okay, we anyways have to get out of the apartment before we can go to Germany as our renters will move in right after we leave.

 

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The rice cooker is still needed

Now there are a few things which come in very handy when moving and they show that I am just really unable to plan such events. First of all my I want to share my original plan. My grand idea was to rent a truck, pack it full with our stuff and I would drive it , have my father with our car and my mother would be with their own car. This might sound pretty good until you see how much it actually cost to rent a truck in Finland and use it only one-way to Germany. Latest the truck costs for a ferry spot would blow your budget! A ferry? Yes a ferry as we do not wish to drive thousands of kilometres, especially with a little baby in the car and our bed on the car roof.

 

 

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and more moving boxes…

Now I come to the part where it is just great to have parents or people who think a bit different and looking always for how to keep any costs low, to have a wife who is really fond of internet auctioning websites and last but not least be able to admit that the own plan is a horrible one. You see, my parents have friends who visit Finland every summer and few agreed to take several boxes filled with our earthly possessions with them to Germany by car. I am not talking about one or two boxes which might find a little corner in their trunk but about over 20 huge moving cardboard boxes! Then also the fact that there is my old man buying all those moving boxes for us and bringing them to Finland in the first place. My own idea was to put all our stuff into, well, I have absolutely no clue at all, probably scattered around in the truck.

 

Now why it is so good to have a wife who loves internet auctioning websites? We had to either sell much of our furniture or simply throw it away. Thanks to my wife we were actually able to sell most of the stuff and earned few extra bucks which can be used later to buy great new things for our new apartment. Yay, to my pathetic plan…

 

Now to the sad part of us moving away and not to have enough space in the car: Our beloved George as to stay in our old apartment and will find a new home with the people renting our apartment. George, I am sorry and we will miss you! But don’t worry, we will do our best to take you to Germany as well some when in the future. I hope you are not too hurt by the fact that I don’t remember whether you are a Dracaena or a Yucca…

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George, we will miss you

My crazy Chinese Family I married into…