Tag Archives: Chinese People

Bargaining

Bargaining – A skill highly common in Asian and Arabic countries…

In my own home country we know some kind of bargaining but it pales compared to what I experienced for example in China. wherever we went together with my mom in law to buy something she tried to get some extras out of it or to lower the price. You may think its okay if its something special like some a bit higher priced electronic equipment, but no, don’t be fooled. She bargains everywhere.

I remember from last year when she wanted to buy a new dust mob for the ever cleaning dad in law. We ended up going through several shopping malls and looking at dozens of different brands and models (I never imagined that product would be so popular in China, as I never see any clean apartments). The sales people tried their best to convince my nice mom in law to buy their product, they showed how easy to use those dust mobs are, how good they clean and so on. Now the thing is, the all have nearly the same price and the sales personnel went as far as giving even extra interchangeable parts which might get worn down after time. But no, they couldn’t convince her to buy it until one sales person offered another unit of some of the interchangeable parts and voila, mom in law bought it immediately.

Once again, as in so many other stories, a normal person might think that this aint so bad…okay…wait for this.

My wife and her mom were discussing about visa regulations. This is because next year our family will finally grow a little bit and mom in law will come to us for three months. Three months because that is the limit someone can stay in Europe with a normal travel visa from China. Both of them were upset because three months are not really that long and we really could use mom in law’s help for some longer time. My wife told her then that after few months break we will invite her again for another three months.

What was mom in law’s reaction then?

“Are you stupid, why waiting?”

My wife then.

“Because you need to get another visa after the 3 month.s”

Mom in law

“Dont be silly, I will just get a longer visa”

Wife

“But mom this is impossible, tourist visa in only valid maximum for 3 months.”

Mom in law

“No no, I will go to the embassy and talk with them, bargain a bit, because this is a special reason with the child so they will give me a longer visa.”

Wife o.O

“What? There is nothing to bargain, visas are fixed, you can’t negotiate on that!”

Mom in law

“Everything can be negotiated.”

Wife

“…”

One of the many examples. I guess I could come up with many more stuff like this about mom in law bargaining but it is just too much.

Anyone else has experienced similar weird stories with their Chinese or Asian families?

Denial

You ever experienced that some person did something really stupid and then denies it later on or blames other people?

Did you ever experience such behavior on a weekly basis (I mean with really really stupid stuff)?

No? You are such a lucky person then, because you havent met my mom in law.

This stupid stuff happens at random, they are unexpected and hit you out of nowhere.

Just as an example, we are sitting in the living room in my parents in law apartment. Mom in law brakes by accident a cup, and puts it somewhere no one can see it right away but my wife is witness to it all. So she takes the cup and points out that the handle is broken off.

Her moms reaction is like “It wasnt me, I have nothing to do with it”

My wife then “But I saw you doing it”

Mom in law “No no, it wasnt me”

Wife “But I saw it just now!”

Mom in law “It’s your father’s fault to put it there!”

And then it comes to blaming the dad…

 

Another time we watched some Chinese TV show and in it the Female lead is saying something really stupid to her child like “Don’t eat the watermelon seeds, they will start growing in your tummy”. My wife turns to her mom and says “That is exactly what you told me”

Mom in law, laughing “I never told you something like that, how stupid would I be to say such things”

Wife “I remember it clearly!”

Mom in law “No no, I never said something like that”

Dad in law jumps in then “You used to tell her that every time when eating watermelon”

Mom in law “It’s because of you!”

 

And so on …

Yeap, there are many more stories, too many to be told, too many to remember them all. I guess I will just tape everything next time we spent time with her 😉

Clean Windows

Hello again,

Anyone who had been in China and many other Asian countries has probably realized that keeping something clean is not their strength. Especially when it comes to the exterior of buildings and also much of the more public interior such as the stairways, lifts etc. Sometimes it is even that dirty and in such a desolate condition that you might think that the building must be near hundred years old even though it is standing there only for a few years.

However this is nothing compared to how the windows are taken care of. In hotels you might try to watch out of your window but then you see…nothing! Ok, you see something and that is grey or brown, sometimes even oily blackish,  depending on the area and their industry. Chinese seem to avoid to clean windows at all cost.

In a restaurant I saw once how they cleaned their front window (the side facing the street). So what they did was to put newspaper in water and wipe the windows with those newspapers. Needles to say, the window appeared to be more dirty afterwards than it was in the beginning…

So when we had my wife’s parents over here in the “western” world they noticed that the windows are actually clean. Very often it happened that we went through the streets and my mom in law pointed out the clean windows. She asked then “Why are the windows so clean? Special glass?” oh well oh well, sure they know something about how to clean windows but it seems its more a task they do every decade or so.

On a side note, they really seem not to know too much about cleaning equipment for windows. In a store they had some window wipers and my dad in law wanted to buy one of those to use it as a floor wiper in the bathroom.

Again my question, is this normal? Is it depending on the city or area the people come from? Or are they just joking around and I just miss the hint? 😮