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I do whatever I want to do

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Some of you may have heard about some certain coronavirus going around. No, I won’t be writing now all about the how it is spreading and what will happen in the near future but all about my dear Chinese mother-in-law, once again. Over the past years I had so many blog posts about her and her “special” behavior, especially regarding her doing whatever she feels like to. Now it is once again not any different. In Xi’an the situation is currently not that extreme as in Wuhan but everyday life is certainly limited now. For example each household can only send one person out every second day or so to buy groceries and whatever else is needed. This is strictly monitored as most apartment blocks have their own entrance(s) which are locked and the security guard (or something very similar to that position) is taking note who is leaving and coming back. Upon coming back they will also check the temperature of the person to make sure that they have no fever.

Fear me

As you can see it is really restricted about going out currently and you shouldn’t waste any of those “outings”, as a household always needs some certain supplies. Now we have MIL entering the combat zone with her own unique ideas what to do when going out. Just few days ago father-in-law called my wife that MIL had left the apartment to go feed the stray dogs in the area. My wife immediately tried to reach her mother but she didn’t answer her phone. Few hours later then she was able to reach her and asked where she had gone. My wife had to make it appear as her father didn’t sell out his wife about her outing as that woman can be really difficult towards him. So the conversation between my wife and MIL went along these lines:

Wife: “I tried to reach you, because the kids want to talk to you, where were you?”

MIL: “I am busy preparing dinner now and before I was bringing boxes (for our business) away with your father, nothing special.”

Wife: “But there are no boxes currently which need to be sent away.”

MIL: “oh, just some boxes…”

Wife: “And you never go out with dad to bring them away, he is always doing it alone!”

MIL: “I ate to much and wanted to take a walk..”

Wife: “So you go out to take a walk because you ate too much, but didn’t you tell me just that you are preparing dinner?”

MIL: “I was still full from lunch, way too much food”

Wife: “So you go out for a walk even with the virus around. You would never do that except you go dancing in the park with your group or feed the stray dogs!”

MIL: “Don’t be silly, there is no dancing currently because people are not allowed to have meetings like that right now”

Wife: “So you went to feed the dogs!”

MIL: “No no, just taking a walk”

Wife: “The dogs…”

MIL: “Just a little bit, I did not even touch them”

Wife: “You know that you are not allowed to feed them anymore!”

 

Yeah, MIL wouldn’t admit it really that she just went to feed the dogs. The reason why she is not allowed to feed them anymore by wife has two reasons. For one she has no vaccinations and the second reason she kind of kills the dogs with the food as she feeds the leftover super spicy food either from the restaurants or currently from what they cook at home.

Poor dogs locked up in cage they can’t even lie down

 

Even though MIL means to help the animals she does the exact opposite. Here in Germany she went out to feed the ducks in the city center with spoiled meat during her first summer here and magically after the very same summer 90% of the duck population had died/ vanished here replace by seagulls. Besides that she loves to feed dogs with chocolate cookies and other things she might find somewhere in the shops. Her own dogs had all kind of stomach problems already and they have rotten teeth as she never ever brushes their teeth or give anything to help keeping the teeth more or less clean. By now you can smell the breath of her dogs a mile against the wind, one of the reasons why FIL doesn’t want to get near them.

Oh well, MIL is just like that and thanks to her “taking a walk” it took another two days till they could buy groceries as she didn’t buy anything after feeding the dogs. All very reasonable according to her and only her.

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Troubles in China

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My dear Chinese mother-in-law is staying this summer again with us and by now has been already one month here in Germany. Things have been complicated during this time. No it is not all about her destroying stuff in the apartment or behaving more strange than usual (more about that later). It is due to the health condition of granny in China.

Early this year they found out that granny has cancer and decided not to treat it as nothing would help. Back then MIL took her mother nearly daily to different hospitals to get more checkups and the opinions of various specialists in their field. They all concluded that there was nothing they could do anymore for granny so the family decided to keep it all a secret from her. Sure she knew that it was odd to go to so many doctors but she thought all the time that it was for some basic health checkups and to get something for the swelling on her throat (the lymph knots). MIL took care of everything and her brother tried to help as much as possible besides his full-time job.

MIL and the kids in Hong Kong

Due to all the troubles back in China we were not even sure whether MIL could come this summer to help us or not. In the end they figured that granny still had some more time left and she was doing fine as she was not yet affected by the cancer. Now on the very same day MIL arrived in Germany her mother got very sick and was rushed to the hospital. Thankfully it was just very high fever with the risk of developing a serious lung infection but all was taken care of in the hospital. But with this the real trouble started in form of MIL’s sister. Every single day aunty is sending messages and voice messages complaining how much work she has to do now because granny is/ was in hospital and how MIL could dare to leave them all and come to Germany. Those are not just one or two messages a day but multiple spread over all day and night, all about how much work she has and how hard it is.

Someone is not so sure about the statue

Thing is aunty was in Japan in the beginning when granny was diagnosed and did not come back to China. In fact she even prolonged her stay in Japan by one month all the while MIL and her brother were doing everything for their mother. Aunty also complained that she has to cook so much food now for everyone even though she hasn’t cooked a single dish all the time as uncle is doing that. However aunty is complaining now that his food is not good enough and I quote “disgusting” so now FIL has to bring her the food she ordered from restaurants. By the way the food uncle prepares is pretty good, at least no one else has ever complained and I actually like eating at their place. This all puts a lot of pressure on both MIL and my wife as aunty just won’t stop complaining and kind of puts a hold on our business activities as my wife has to argue all the time with her. Right now MIL is considering flying back to China one month early but that is not set yet and I hope she won’t do that as she is needed very much here.

This blog post wasn’t really anything funny, just something which has been annoying me for the past weeks.

You have a family member behaving in a very annoying way putting constant pressure on others?

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Travel plans for this year

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Our trip to China is getting closer and with it also the (probably) the last time to see Granny. As I mentioned in the last post she is not doing fine. Back then the doctors couldn’t pinpoint what is exactly going on but by now they figured it out. She has malignant melanoma what they already suspected one month ago. However they could not find the spot untill few weeks later as it is actually located in her upper throat. Because she never really goes to the dentist they never saw it growing there and by now it is just too late.

Granny surrounded my her family at our wedding in China 2013

This cancer won’t be treated except with some Chinese medications as she is too weak for any surgery (and this surgery would be very risky as well) and chemotherapy would not help in this case either. She does not know that she is seriously ill and the doctors and the family decided to keep it that way. In the best possible scenario she still has a few years to live and we hope for that one though I hate to imagine how the last months of her life will be.

Because of this turn of events we “rescheduled” our plans for this trip to China and will stay mostly in Xi’an. Our planned short holiday to Thailand has been postponed to some other year. However this does not mean that we won’t travel at all this year at least within China. In the end of April we will be going for a few days to Wuhan to  meet up with some friends from Finland. No they are not Finnish but they are in fact Chinese who studied together with my wife back in Kajaani over 12 years ago and lived in the same dormitory. Last year they visited us in Xi’an and this year we shall visit them in their city. Besides Wuhan we will be going in May to Hong Kong! Now this is a city I wanted to visit for so many years but my wife never really had any interest in it. However now I convinced her finally though I must say that mentioning Disney Land might have helped a bit here.

Standard Chinese apartment block, let’s see how they look in Wuhan and Hong Kong

My wife does not even have the chance to change her mind on these travels as all tickets have been booked already so she won’t be able to turn into a complete coach potato this time around. Oh and also our plans for the summer changed again. My wonderful Chinese mother-in-law will be coming to Germany. We had first planned for FIL to come as ´his wife prefered staying with her mother in China but because doctors think that Granny still has way more than just few months or even several years my wife could convince her. Another big reason to convince MIL to come to Germany was about work. FIL is always handling the packages we send to China such as opening them, checking the items and repacking them to smaller boxes to send to the customer. Every time MIL did this job it was a total disaster as products would just go missing or she would forget to send them/ send them to the wrong customer. Her doing that job for 3 months would be the possible end of our company. Thus MIL will be coming to Germany in order to help us with the kids while my parents are in Finland for the entire summer.

Have you been to Hong Kong or Wuhan?

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