Everyone was already in a situation where you thought you did something such as paying some bill but in the end you basically forgot to do it. This can be rather annoying at time because you were at first 100% sure you did pay the bill which makes it even more frustrating to see that you were wrong in the end. Let me tell you there is nothing bad about it as it happens more often than not to me, especially when it comes to bringing the trash out (could be also my mind is doing it on purpose because who really likes to bring out the trash…). However this can be also very aggravating when it does happen to a person all the time and thus not only causes delay in doing certain things but also waste your time.
Who could I possibly talk about? My dear mother-in-law of course! I mentioned in various posts before that she is a rather odd person who is always right. No matter how clear it is that she did something wrong she is always able to blame others for it or it never ever happened. The thing is it wasn’t bothering me/ us so much as we didn’t have to depend too much on her most of the times but this changed a bit over time as she also started to visit us each year for three months and so on. Of course it wouldn’t matter at all in case these things were about trivial stuff but it usually always happens when it is about important or urgent matters.
Last time my wife was with Nathan in China she wanted to take some cash with her to Germany. Okay no problem there as she just had to go to bank with her mother (as the money is on her account) and withdraw some Euros. Now the problem wasn’t with getting the money but to find it again before flying to Germany. Few days before my wife and Nathan were about to fly back she started to pack and noticed that the cash vanished. She went to her mother and asked her where it could be. So MIL told that she gave it to her. Okay no trouble there but my wife couldn’t remember this at all so she asked her again. MIL then explained step by step how she gave the money to her when they arrived in the apartment. She even explained how she was giving it and with which hand. But as my wife couldn’t remember this at all MIL was just like “I gave it to you so it is your problem now!”. OKAY…according to my wife this went on for several hours until MIL finally decided to check her closet for something and voilà: THE FREAKING MONEY WAS WITH HER STUFF!!! Basically dear mother-in-law just created her own world once again and made up this story while she actually put the money to her closet and never gave it to my wife.
Another example just to show you MIL’s insanity happened few weeks ago. As you might know both my wife and I have a little business (okay mostly my wife as I was just too ill to get anything done so far but things are slowly improving for me). All of our customers are from China so my wife has to send packages there every week. In case people buy some smaller amount my wife waits for a bit and then sends a big package to her parents containing stuff of several customers who had smaller orders. These things then are being put into smaller packages by MIL and then send to the customer. This actually sounds more complicated than it is because my wife strictly separates each of the items which belong to one customer and attached the name and address of this person. So all MIL has to do is to take it out, put it into some smaller packages (in case my wife didn’t put it already into some smaller boxes), attach the address of the buyer and give to some logistic company. Well well there is not really ever anything easy when it comes to MIL.
Few weeks ago my wife sent such a package containing the items of several buyers but there was one item without an adress as the buyer was just moving to a new place. The customer then sent few days later the new address to my wife and there was so far no problem. But the trouble of course started when my wife called her mother and gave the address for this last package. MIL was like “What package? I sent everything already away! There is nothing here!” WHAT??? How is this possible as there was this one package without any address! MIL was 100% sure that she sent this package but she didn’t remember any longer to whom. My wife then spent the whole day trying to figure out where on earth her mother could have sent this box. Late in the evening MIL then contacted my wife “Oh, by the way I found the missing box, it was with my stuff”. Guess how furious my wife was after wasting a whole day trying to track down where the box could be.
In the end father-in-law’s words ring too true “She is just crazy, she lives in a world of her own” and “She is able to bend reality and thus the truth to her own liking, she is never wrong about anything. Just crazy, you know”. This poor man living with her for so many decades, no wonder he developed several OCD’s over the years.
Do you know someone who creates her/ his own reality when it comes to such things?
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49 thoughts on “Living in a world of your own”
Oh no, losing money is the worst!
Ah, poor father-in-law…
Thank god that the money was found, wasnt even a small amount…what a crazy woman 🙂
Yeah I think father in law lost all his hairs due to the crazy stuff at home, no wonder he prefers working whole day
We got a headache just reading this… you poor things!!! She could drive any normal person sane.
Indeed she could. It is so weird that she believes her own stories so much. What she remembers of her daughters childhood does not match a single bit what my wife told me about how it was back then…
Sorry… meant to say – drive any normal person INSANE
As I read this post, I can feel the stress in between the paragraphs.
Though it can be very stressful it is thankfully nothing a good wine or beer could solve on a weekend to get ready for the upcoming madness 🙂
I think I would be throwing things. You and your wife are handling the inefficiency much better than I would!
My wife was turning more than once berserk… Her mother is more than just a handful to take. The thing is she will be here again starting June, getting nightmares already :p
Oh, yes! I mean, oh, no. Bad for you, but good for funny posts for us.
Indeed I shall have tons of stuff to write about especially since last time MIL was here I was in condition to write much about her as I was most of the times in hospitals or being just a pathetic thing at home …
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Wow. just reading that is frustrating. I have no idea how you and your wife handle this sort of crazy every year for months on end. Every time I read about MIL I am just so thankful for my lovely and always friendly mother-in-law f(^_^;)
I guess I can only handle this as I am very good in switching my brain off 🙂
I can just imagine the panic your wife must have felt trying to figure out what happened to the missing package – after all, it is your business and reputation that is on the line.
But, on the bright side, you don’t live with her all the time. I pity her husband who I am sure has mastered the technique of zoning her out.
We are really glad that we don’t live with her. Father in law either cleans the apartment, plays some online games or is out playing table tennis. Seems really that he figured out how to avoid her as much as possible 🙂
As far as I know, only crazy people creates a world of their own in their heads, so your father-in-law is probably right!
Yeah there are several screws loose in her head. When her husband said that she is crazy she was standing right next to him and didn’t try to defend herself 😮
Oh dear, MIL is helping out with the packages…hopefully it is good for the business in the end as I’m sure people want their stuff
I don’t know anyone person who likes to create their own delusional reality. Well, okay. Maybe my stuffed monkey Mr Wobbles. His mission is to make the world happy and he believes that he can’t make each person in this world feel happy 100% of the time 😀
In the end only people with something wrong with their mind are creating such own worlds nonstop.
So far it all worked out with the business and these days FIL is handling the packages, less stress for my wife 🙂
Good to hear FIL is taking control of the business ship in China. I hope it isn’t too much work and he still has time for his table tennis 🙂
Oh he has more than enough time. Besides packages arrive only few times a week so there is no issue 🙂
I don’t know how you all do it. What’s horrible is that everyone suffers from her lack of self-awareness. It is possible that something is mentally wrong with her. She might have a disability of sorts…after all, isn’t that what crazy means?
Oh without doubt there is something mentally wrong with her after all her husband and her daughter are saying it plus pretty much the entire extended family 🙂
I don’t think she will ever get it checked our as she is terrified of doctors…
Have her checked! This sounds very worrying. What if she is developing some kind of alzheimer or something like that?
She has been always like that according to her mother…a couple of years ago she was checked regarding dementia etc as my wife forced her to but nothing was found except that they asked her to get extra pills for her kidneys (hospital was specialised on kidneys and thus they tried to earn some extra money…)
Marta is quite right. As people’s short-term memory word-wide tends to get worse as they get older, it is important to have a neurogist check her before she get worse. Good luck!
As I answered already Marta she has been always like that according to her mother. Let’s see how it will develop further
She might be a bit crazy, but she’s really entertaining to read about:) I’m happy to hear that your condition is improving, and how exciting about your business, how could I have missed that?
Oh well I never wrote really about our little business as it just started last year and I wasn’t really in any condition to contribute to it till now.
Oh my dear mother in law how I fear to have her here again in summer..
MIL’s can be a bit challenging at times. Mine has this habit of always telling me to take my coat off as soon as I come in the door, being a bit stubborn I tend to keep it on because I’m often cold. Then she tells me to sit down! If I don’t do what she says then she says I’m not relaxed!! How’s that for crazy…. I feel your pain… !!
Yeah that sounds also very annoying. My MIL tells us always in China what we should wear when going outside such as “it is very cold outside, better wear long trousers and a jacket.” Could be a good idea but when the temperatures are around +30 degrees Celsius it is a bit suicidal…
Ha Ha! What’s it with MIL’s and coats!!
I know plenty of these people. And I always question myself why they don’t realize how their actions make other people feel so awful. Why? Just why?
Indeed this behavior can be really terrible. I am just glad that I know no one else like this, MIL is already more than enough to handle
I normally avoid these people, but sometimes it is not possible as they are close family…
Family always makes it hard to avoid the people. Really wonder why they don’t realize themselves what damage they cause with it
Liked your post. 🙂
Thank you 🙂
Crazy frustrating! However frightening if it is a sign of something more serious than just her deliberately creating her own reality. Good she was checked for dementia but may want to keep up those checks too. 😉
Yeah my wife tries to force her parents to get a full-body checkup every year but more often than not they try to come up with excuses to avoid it
I get that… who wants to be poked, prodded, pricked and more! 😉
Oh my god, your MIL does sound crazy (and weird perhaps?)!! I guess it needs a really cool-headed person to deal with such kind of personality, like your FIL perhaps.
Well luckily she found the package in her stuff at the end..Does she display some warm emotions to your family sometimes or is she mostly crazy?
I think she is mostly crazy 🙂
Are you sure she should be sending the packages? ^^ It’s a good idea to have father-in-law do it instead. I hope your hair will not fall out from the stress like dear father-in-law!
Dont even make me think how I would look like without hairs just as him…he must have beem through terrible ordeal during his life with MIL…
Oh man, I would go really crazy! She is truly “special”…
Sometimes she is even for me too special. I am just glad she lives so far away and I don’t have to see her for most of the year